Kim Kardashian recently told Live&Style magazine “I can’t wait to get married…I’ve thought about it all for so long. What woman hasn’t thought about her wedding since she was a little girl?”
Well, what’s the answer America?
Women are uniquely groomed for marriage. Millions of images exist in our folklore and media that tell a woman if she is unmarried she is obviously unworthy of being loved.
And in exchange for that walk down the aisle she will be allowed to spend back breaking days raising children, a husband, and earning a living. At the best she can hope for some contribution to household chores, and we are just talking about U.S. women. The contributions in other parts of the world are near zero. Yet the truth is Live In Boyfriends do more housework than husbands. And women pursue this institution more aggressively than any other.
Or do we?
According to US Census 2010 – People Are Waiting Longer to Get Married. The median age at first marriage increased to 28.2 for men and 26.1 for women. Among the total population ages 18 and older, the proportion married dropped from 57 percent in 2000 to 52 percent in 2009. This is the lowest percentage recorded since information on marital status was first collected by the U.S. Census Bureau more than 100 years ago.
Among women, the proportion married dropped below 50 percent (to 49.9 percent), so the number of unmarried women (including those who are separated, widowed, divorced, and never married) outnumber married women, possibly for the first time in US history .
Source: Marriage Rates Among Young Adults Ages 25-34, 1965-2010 (Percent). U.S. Census Bureau, 2000 Census and American Community Survey.
Although marriage rates have dropped among young adults, it is important to note that most young adults will go on to marry later in life. The probability of an adult getting married at some point during their lifetime is still nearly 90 percent.[i]
It is that powerful a metaphor for success.
In case you are not sure your daughter will ever walk down the aisle in your wedding dress recycle it. Brides Against Breast Cancer sells new and used dresses to help fund the wishes of metastatic breast cancer patients.
AND in Part II
As women dig their way out of piles of laundry is it possible our erotic energy is reemerging? In 2006, a survey of married men found that men who did more chores at home fared much better in the bedroom. “The more satisfied a wife is with the division of household duties, the more satisfied a man is with his marital sex life,” according to the survey. These married men reported that when wives were happier with their husband’s household work, the frequency of sex was also higher. And, SURPRISE, the survey found that “the more hours a woman works at the job, the more sex she has at home.” Getting to 50/50 Fact Sheet
IS A NEW WOMAN EMERGING; more sexually confident and no longer afraid of leadership? Join the conversation in Part II.
[i] Andrew J. Cherlin, The Marriage-Go-Round: The State of Marriage and Family in America Today (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2009).